Personal Standards

Everyone has their own sets of beliefs for different aspects of their lives. How they conduct their intimate affairs, their professional life as well as their social life. Different rules apply depending on the area of focus. And whatever standards people set for themselves should be respected as such, and the people around them exist peacefully.

I usually have one rule where standards are concerned: that everything about a person’s life is their choice and subject to opinions/ scrutiny,  EXCEPT, how they conduct their personal affairs. That leaves if they break any laws, infringe on any other human being’s rights and their professional conduct, they can be publicly held accountable. 

I could also say above all else, that if they broke the Laws of God as well, they are to give an account; but I have little wisdom and I am just like everyone else; ergo no room or justification to judge: so I don’t bother wasting my time judging.

But it then means that everything else about that person’s life can be viewed and some feedback generated/ opinion formed. Either way, as long as it not personal or a crime (both extremities), the individual may choose /not to value your opinion any at all. They may understand it and even entertain it, but you are being foolish to expect without fail, that they alter their standards at your say-so.

Which brings me to the crux of the matter: if your standards seem to make me feel anything like inferior or pressured, then I am not as secure as I thought and I have placed an unnecessarily great amount of power in your hands over my emotions and how I feel about myself. Most importantly; this has nothing to do with you either. You exist peacefully with your standards but for some reason, they make ME feel insecure; that is not something you can change. I have to be conscious of myself, everything there is to know about me I should know; change what I can and accept what I can’t change. IT’S ALL ME. You are just the trigger/fuse that illicits the response I give; but it’s all me.

In short, we must choose our reasons to be selfish carefully. Be so selfish; you are conscious of you, what is happening around you and what reaction keeps you real with you.  Be so unselfish also , that you focus on what really matters at the end of the day, how you wish to honour your short time living on this earth and your legacy (fitting in will never get you remembered, as you then never stand out) left behind when you die, even the little things matter.

People should be afforded the right to live by their standards without being side-lined or isolated by the many followers of the norm. Respecting people’s right to choose is the crux of many of society’s problem, for another blog, and it begins with us as individuals. 

I have said my piece on the matter.

Until then: express yourself and as long as you do not infringe on anyone else’s rights/ stsndards purposefully, continue to do you!

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The REBIRTH….

On September 18, 2014; a change was born. An integrated self was identified and emancipated from the inflicting bounds that same self had created. How can self create and destroy within the same  breath?

No more was this self dependent on anything external of them to survive and explore their full potential. Reading this one may think that this self has won the lotto, to never want again. There is more to life than money and this self just needs enough to feel secure. This self has planned for these eventualities in her not so clear future. She is still hopeful; not afraid.

The truth is this self has come into their reality and their potentials to make sure they acquire and do what it takes to keep what they have acquired. This self is now them first and everyone else after. The true giving of one’s self means you have to find that self before you give it away. How can you put everyone first all the time with no inclination as to what role you play??? What you end up with is a confused, inhibited and unhappy self.

This self was confused, until emancipation met them (at one score and one) and told them to do a paradigm shift. This self knows all the baggage will have to be sorted out, so they position themselves in a way to bring to light that positivity.

This self now recognizes the true persons that surround them; the ones that encourage self exploration and evolution and the ones that insist she remain in the role they have cut out for her. This self was and may always be a darned good actress.

As this self goes into the weekend, new and living life, as though it has just begun, they smile at the upcoming hurdles and have planned how to handle them.

Do the same; hone into your self this weekend and don’t stifle them. Think of the little things that make your self get cozy and purr with pleasure. Recognition of self is a powerful motivator.

This self will be here in many more blogs to come.

Enjoy!!!!

cilane